In 1987, Suicidal
Tendencies released an album with a song called “Join the Army”. This ‘whimsical
title’ is very relational to my thoughts today. USA Today released this article
last Thursday:
I sincerely hope that
you will take the time to read this article before proceeding further, but I
must be rational. I know that not everyone will. So, I am going to only share this
one particular quote with you from above:
“Suicides have increased across
the military, Defense Secretary Leon Panetta told Congress last month. He said
service members of all branches are killing themselves at the rate of about one
per day. ‘That is an epidemic,’ he testified. ‘Something's wrong.’”
Something
is VERY wrong, sir. According to another study conducted by the Defense
Department staff of USA Today, suicides are only second to being killed in
combat and is listed above traffic accidents. I have personally experienced
losing someone to suicide while I served on my ship in San Diego. She was the
Chief Master-at-Arms, which in civilian terms would be similar to the sheriff
of the ship. I remember that day very vividly in my mind. The strong-arm of the
ship, the main person that maintained order was gone. She was a beautiful woman
with an illustrious career in the Navy…and a demon that would not stop taunting
her until she saw no other way out. Today, I was watching a YouTube video of
Bill Cosby on the subject of education (I strongly recommend his book Come On
People by the way) and at the end of his speech he said, “This truancy has
to stop…Quit waiting for somebody’s funeral.” Collins English Dictionary, 10th Edition
defines truancy as follows:
Noun:
1. A student who stays away from school without
permission.
2. A person
who shirks or neglects his or her duty.
Adjective:
3. Absent from school without permission.
4. Neglectful
of duty or responsibility; idle.
You may have noticed
that I typed out the second noun and the second adjective in bold text. Bill Cosby
may be referencing lax education, but this can also be a callous warning. I
remember sitting in a coffee shop with my campus minister recently (we shall
call him Edin) and we talked about how we, as a nation, are notorious for
applauding our troops upon their return and thanking them for their service.
Edin pointed out that this is especially true in the church. But, is that as
far as we extend our gratitude? Is there a missing fragment in this equation? Are
we avoiding giving soldiers and veterans a shoulder to cry on when they return
to American soil?
If it were up to me, The
Wounded Warrior or The Wounded Woman by Dr. Steve Stephens would
fall into the hands of every soldier, sailor, marine and airmen in our
military, especially those returning from a deployment. Perhaps, even Enemies
of the Heart by Andy Stanley should start to enter the picture. We can no
longer be idle in the lives of our militant neighbors, friends! This epidemic
is not going to go away with a “suck it up” mentality. We can no longer be
intimidated by a lack of understanding of what they go through. TALK TO THESE
MEN AND WOMEN! Let them feel so comfortable in your home that they tell you
about how not a night goes by that they don’t awaken from a nightmare in an overpowering
sweat. It is time that the curtain is drawn back, and we lovingly intervene. They
need to know how loved they are by the Father, their family and neighbor, and
see as A.W. Tozer once said, “An infinite God can give all of Himself to each
of His children. He does not distribute Himself that each may have a part, but
to each one He gives all of Himself as fully as if there were no others.”
Truthfully, I saw how little MAC's passing meant to those who saw an opportunity to "get out of work early" or what not. I hated what happened to her and wish everyday that there was a way to go back and be there for her. I wasn't her closest friend but it affected me (and many others) in such a way that it is hard to get over. The biggest problem with military suicides is the fact that it is not being taken serious. We went back to work the next day because according to a certain officer at her very own memorial service, "it is what she would have wanted." Yea right.
ReplyDeleteFor those who knew her know that she was a wonderful person and deserved more respect than that... along with all other fellow servicemen/women who have passed on.
RIP Chief.